What’s a nice way of saying no without hurting someone feelings? While we’re at it, what’s a nice way of saying no without injuring your career? #HazzardsOfBeingAGirl
Every girl I know has had to deal with undesired attention. It’s flattering and you try to be grateful and courteous until you feel a little trapped by your own politeness.
Worse case scenario: This happens at a place of work.
Still worse case scenario: When you sincerely describe the situation to someone, they point out that you brought it on yourself! You picture smacking them across the head and saying, ‘Oh! Thank you very much. I have no perception of reality so I’m glad you told me so. I’m sorry I was brought up with good manners. Let me go, rewind time and ask this normal person to &#%&(@^#&#*&.’
It can still get worse (!) case scenario: People around you think of this person as harmless (which is probably true) and think you are being big headed about your own importance (probably true in a way, as well).
How can it possibly get worse still (?) case scenario: It happens with someone who can probably help you/ mentor you/ assist you in your chosen path. Higher stakes? This person is the link between you and your six-figure paycheck. [OK, this more of a theoretical question]
So, I ask you, vigilant reader, how do you sensitively divert the attention of someone who is not a bad person, not aggressive, not mean & probably a good person? How do you do it without hurting their egos and your conscience? How do you do it without bad karma?